tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post8979209182493997323..comments2023-07-12T08:57:11.130-07:00Comments on katilda.com: male's eye view: break-ups 101katildahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17794183122186770465noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-89804384920600431412011-08-26T08:10:07.991-07:002011-08-26T08:10:07.991-07:00@Scott....do you generally present her with a cert...@Scott....do you generally present her with a certificate of achievement or medal, as well? It sounds very much like graduation. ;) That would be cool.Rachel Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964747379390801212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-16954784695905375312011-08-24T19:53:00.411-07:002011-08-24T19:53:00.411-07:00@Katie: I think my next post will be about what to...@Katie: I think my next post will be about what to do post break-up. Obsessing is not a good thing. And congrats on the marriage!<br /><br />@Rachel: I passed Break-ups 101...I'm still working on the lab. I'm still working on putting the theories into practice. Food is always a good way to lessen the blow.<br /><br />@Scott: I do think that talking is important. See Suggestions 3 and 4. I think the phrase "We need to talk" often leads to people putting up walls, feeling stressed, and react so they don't get hurt. I think when people put up walls, it shuts down open and honest communication. I have had "the talk" with several girls that ended really well. But, none of them started with "We need to talk." I'll definitely try your suggested phrase of learning and growth the next time I have "the talk" with a girl!Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13716836404448539268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-76661193416949341592011-08-24T19:32:39.195-07:002011-08-24T19:32:39.195-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13716836404448539268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-74723226844433635322011-08-24T14:54:54.422-07:002011-08-24T14:54:54.422-07:00Great stuff Reed, wouldn't have expected anyth...Great stuff Reed, wouldn't have expected anything else from you. I do differ on one of your observations, the first one in fact. I have used "we need to talk" for good reasons and it has produced good results. When you think about it, needing to talk is almost always good because there is communication and often thoughts and feelings that have been waiting to come out are finally going to be expressed. A break up can be and often is a positive thing. It means you've got one more person out of your way as you continue looking for "the one." When you realize it's time to move on, hopefully before he other person, try this approach: "I have excellent news, through our time together I've learned and grown as a person and I sincerely hope you have too. I know for a fact we can each find true love and happiness, we just need to keep looking."Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13373669491244264873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-41816331083328418812011-08-24T11:02:47.944-07:002011-08-24T11:02:47.944-07:00Now...I do not want to develop a reputation of bre...Now...I do not want to develop a reputation of breaking up, but clearly (since I'm single) I'm better at breaking up than getting married. The odds are against me. Although probably an inappropriate request (I'm going to ask anyway), I think it would be interesting to hear from one of the girls Reed has broken up with, to find out how his methods really work. As a lawyer, he understands the need for evidence. (I suggest that they dated a minimum of 2 weeks to be both relevant and admissible evidence).<br />I’m just kidding. That would be both awkward and inappropriate for this light hearted, soul baring post. <br />As a suggestion for break ups (not that my opinion was solicited for this hot topic) BUT, I suggest feeding them when you are going to break up. Men are so much more patient and understanding when they have been fed. Just sayin.Rachel Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964747379390801212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9050262466308751436.post-5839827876179330392011-08-24T10:16:46.044-07:002011-08-24T10:16:46.044-07:00Good perspective. Although, with the "Laugh....Good perspective. Although, with the "Laugh. You've had good times" part, I completely agree - unless you're thinking obsessively about the good times you've had with your now-ex. Sometimes it's easier to pretend that things were awful for awhile - at least until it doesn't hurt so much! Ok, now it's time to get a blog, Reed! :) <br /><br />p.s. Thanks for not leaving out the married people - even if I have only been married for two-and-a-half weeks! ;)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375357270568590344noreply@blogger.com