Friday, March 29, 2013

Good Friday: Sunday Will Come

"Each of us will have our own Fridays—those days when the universe itself seems shattered and the shards of our world lie littered about us in pieces. We all will experience those broken times when it seems we can never be put together again. We will all have our Fridays. But I testify to you in the name of the One who conquered death—Sunday will come. In the darkness of our sorrow, Sunday will come. No matter our desperation, no matter our grief, Sunday will come. In this life or the next, Sunday will come."

Feeling grateful today for this beautiful truth, and for this video that always touches my heart.

Happy Easter weekend! What are your plans?

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Vintage Lovers Photos

I stumbled across a collection of vintage lovers photos a couple months ago and have had a huge, vintage crush on them ever since. Basically, I had to restrain myself from pinning-all-the-things to my fotos me gusta pinterest board.

Here are a few of my favorites:

Do you have a photography Pinterest board?

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Shabby Apple giveaway winner!

Just wanted to give a little shout-out to Mikaela for winning my Shabby Apple giveaway! Can't wait to see what pretty item you use the $35 to purchase :) Check your email for your discount code, girl!

And thanks to all of you for commenting, sharing and liking my post yesterday about the role we play in the oversexualization of young girls. If you haven't read it or commented, I'd love to have you check it out and join the conversation!

You guys rock. Life is good. Happy Wednesday.

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Are Little Girls Oversexualized Because We Tell Them To Be?

The Internet is in an uproar.

As happens now and again, parents are speaking out because of the latest issue with racy lingerie being marketed to preteens. Honestly, I haven't looked into the story enough to know what is or isn't going on with Victoria's Secret's marketing campaigns. But I do have thoughts on the matter in general.

During my undergrad I interned for a semester as a research assistant for a professor. My topic of research? The media's influence on the oversexualization of preteen girls. This is a touchy area for me, and one driven as much by emotion as it is by hundreds of hours of careful research on the subject.

Here's the truth: it matters.

We can say it doesn't matter, but it matters. We can let preteen and teenage girls watch MTV and reality shows and popular sitcoms and, yes, even ABC Family, and say the messages these networks send about the way adult (and teenage) women behave, dress, speak, date and sleep around is not affecting the way our daughters behave, dress, speak, date and sleep around, but we would be wrong. It does affect them, and it does matter.


And we're the ones reinforcing the idea.

Girls notice. They notice when their dads pick up Playboy magazines and tune in to Baywatch, they see their older brothers' and male friends' heads turn when a scantily clad woman walks by, they watch college-age girls flaunt themselves into drunken stupors on MTV, they overhear their moms' disparaging self-talk about weight, appearance, etc. We're propagating this. We're reinforcing the belief that, crazy or wrong or wild or what-have-you, promiscuous sexual behavior gets attention and a female's self-worth is closely tied to her waistline and the amount of skin she's willing to show.

"There's nothing wrong with adults engaging in adult behaviors."

This is one of the primary arguments I've heard that supports overly sexual media, and I openly admit that the statement is true. Absolutely true. Sexuality is an important and natural and beautiful part of being an adult. I'm not calling sexual relationships bad or evil or shunning the s-e-x word to a dark corner with cobwebs and demanding that my future daughters avoid its very existence. Sexuality is not wrong, but it belongs in an appropriate sphere, and an appropriate amount of spotlight. Turn on prime-time TV, and you'll know it's hogging the entire stage.

We might not think, by watching these shows and tuning in to this media, that we're affecting our daughters because, "Sex will be OK when they're adults someday." Here's the truth: very few little girls can hear SOMEDAY without wanting to try it NOW. Little girls want to try on mommy's makeup and wear big-girl shoes and drive cars and carry a cell phone around. They emulate what they see their role models doing. Little girls want to grow up fast and be like their parents and older siblings. They want to do what grown-ups do and act how grown-ups act. And if they equate growing up with the right to strip down, the right to flash a television camera on a beach somewhere in Florida and the right to base their self esteem on how far they let a hot guy go with their body, that's what they're going to do, younger and younger.

What about the other beautiful aspects of being an adult? 

What about college plans and careers and world travel and activism and charity and politics and intellectual discussions? If we're going to send our daughters any message about what it means to grow up, we have plenty of amazing, intelligent options to focus on besides the shape of their bodies or number of sexual partners they can accrue during a spring break trip to Mexico.

If our daughters want to grow up early, why aren't they reaching for college brochures and planning service projects for the local community? Answer: Because that's not what we've told them or shown them being grown up means. Maybe we have, in our own personal lives. But maybe we haven't, in what we're putting on the TV screen. Mommy might not be displaying risky sexual behaviors, but her 7-year-old's favorite celebrity might be. And that celebrity is the one getting all the attention and fame and airtime.

As adults and role models, we need to be the first ones to turn it off, look away, put it down, call it out, label it wrong, and tell and show our daughters that being oversexualized is not the best or only way to be grown up.

Because the truth is, we cannot tell our daughters that they are worth more than the size of their chest or their sexual availability and then turn around and openly indulge the media that tells them otherwise.

Monday, March 25, 2013

The Best Taco in Phoenix

If there's one thing Arizona does well, it's Mexican food.

In my opinion Arizona does a lot of things well (see: sunsets, winter weather, orange blossoms, etc.) but today we're focusing on the tacos. When I leave Arizona (see: four long winters in Utah for college) there are always many struggles to face, but the Mexican food is one of the worst. I'm snobby enough to declare that you just can't get the real deal when you're too far north of the border.

So I don't take this decision lightly.

Tacos are my favorite food, there's no question about it. And I've tried a lot of tacos in my day. So the label of Best Taco in Phoenix is not something I'll be handing out willy nilly to the nearest drive-through with a corn tortilla. After much thought and deliberation (but not really because IF YOU'VE EVER EATEN THIS THEN YOU'D KNOW IT'S OBVIOUS)....

America's Taco Shop: Al Pastor Taco

I never let a visiting friend leave Arizona without getting this in their belly. There's something about the way they marinate that pork that makes my taste buds want to weep tears of joy and yell ARRRRIBA all at once. I can't....I can't even talk about it anymore because I'll get mad that I don't have one right now. I mean I have FEELINGS for this taco.

And if carne asada is your thing, America's Taco Shop is touted as having the best in the valley. But please, at least try one al pastor. Do it for me. And your posterity. Think of the children.

And if you need a side dish...

You might think a side of refried beans is just a side of refried beans, but that's only because you haven't tried these ones. Order them. Just do it. Also, some introductory chips and salsa while you're waiting for your food never hurt anyone.

Do you have a favorite taco in Phoenix?
...and do you want to come to America's Taco Shop with me?

Friday, March 22, 2013

suspenders + mint sweatpants

First and foremost, I would like to officially announce that, following the raving success of my quest to bring overalls back in 2012, I have decided to move on to suspenders this year:

Second and secondmost, here's what I've been wearing lately! Also, one of these days I'll actually fix my light wait until I move out and don't have to worry about it so my pictures can stop being nasty and yellow. At least my goodwill rug is nice.

polka dot shirt: clearance at Madewell // vest and skirt: goodwill // navajo sandals: target
denim shirt: can't remember // flower pants: county fair in idaho // tan sandals: target
mocha stripe maxi skirt: modestpop // gray lace shirt: ross // white floral shirt: modestpop
printed blue dress w/ lace collar: california // gray cardi & tan boots: target
navy stripe sweater: charlotte russe // jeans: downeast
gray cardi, mint pants & leopard flats: target // denim shirt: F21
blue plaid shirt & navy wellies: walmart // yellow vintage skirt: thrifted
blue tee: walmart // awesome belt & sandals: target // tropical skirt: gift
black silky shirt, necklace & mint pants: target // denim vest: charlotte russe // tan ankle boots: F21

That last one is a special gem from when I was sickly and wore my mint sweatpants and gray hoodie for an inappropriate number of days in a row. It happens.

Also, did you enter my Shabby Apple giveaway? Just a few hours to go!

Thursday, March 21, 2013

i gave dave elkins my business card

Who is Dave Elkins?
The lead singer of Mae. Currently the creator, producer, captain, bounty hunter, etc. for Schematic.

What is Mae?
Only the favorite band of my senior year of high school. Rocked out to their concert in 2005 at the Marquee Theatre in Tempe. Blasted their album Destination: Beautiful all the day long in my little teenage car.

So what happened?
I met Dave. He was exceptionally nice. He said, "What do you do?" I said, "I'm a writer." Then he said, "Do you have any interest in writing about music?" And he said something about critiquing music and new bands. And then trumpets sounded and halos of light descended, and my eyes lit up and I said, "I do that all the time on my blog." And that is the story of how I gave Dave Elkins my business card and he said he'd email me about some freelancing. Except minus the parts about angels and halos of light, but I would argue that's still up for debate.

Needless to say, it was the coolest. Now excuse me while I take a trip down memory lane on a little Spotify date with Destination: Beautiful and probably The Everglow. Thank you and goodnight.

p.s. Dave informed me that Mae is going on tour this fall to celebrate the anniversary of Destination: Beautiful, and one of the tour stops includes Arizona. I slept soundly and peacefully last night, my friends.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

music: say it ain't so

I'm a busy girl today and when I'm a busy girl that means a music post for the blog! Luckily today we've got a great gem, aka a cover that takes me back to high school but with a modern twist. And who doesn't love a little electric ukulele and sweet harmonies?

Grazie to Kelsey for sharing this with me!

p.s. did you enter my shabby apple giveaway yet? still a couple days to go!

Monday, March 18, 2013

A&A: jonah & dis bear

▲ That one time when I went to the lake last Saturday with a raft and managed to forget the oars. Oops.
▲ The second photo of the model wearing this dress. I mean, who approved this expression?
▲ I read a news story about a man who's been building a wooden boat by hand for like 8 years. Definitely charming, but his name is Jonah. He has to know this can only end in tears. #whale
▲ You know it's Friday when my homonyms fail me:

▲ Everything about this gif.
▲ That one time one of my favorite high school bands that has since broken up (may they rest in peace) (sob) randomly released a bunch of $6 T-shirts. I bought two.
▲ The response to my post about perfection.
Glitter eyeliner that is like $1 at Target because yesplease.
▲ That one time I hardboiled eggs in the oven and it changed my life. The Pinterest taught me how.
▲ This inspiring story about a girl I used to know in high school and her fiance.
▲ My Shabby Apple giveaway that's still going on! Did you enter yet? Go. Fight. Win.

What's awkward and/or awesome about YOUR life lately?

Friday, March 15, 2013

Shabby Apple Giveaway!

Oh, oh it's magic, you know-ow-ow...

Look, I don't know why that song is in my head but I decide it's fitting because today I'm doing a giveaway and a new dress or skirt sort of feels like magic now doesn't it?

Ah, Shabby Apple! 
Purveyors of pretty things and modest clothing! I rocked one of their dresses for Bridesmaid Round 10 and it was oh-so-lovely. I mean, how can you not love a navy dress with a giant bow on the front?

Here's what I'm loving right now:
I mean, do you see that mint dress with the white peter pan collar? DO YOU SEE IT?

1 // 2 // 3 // 4

And now you can enter to win a $35 Shabby Apple gift card!
You are such lucky ducks, you know?

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Wednesday, March 13, 2013

music: the oh hello's

I stumbled across The Oh Hello's after hearing one of their songs in a movie trailer a couple weeks ago. Does anyone else do that? Hone in on the song in a movie trailer or during end credits and scramble to look it up? A good soundtrack can really sell a movie for me. 

Case in point: I can't stop listening to the Warm Bodies soundtrack, weeks later. 

Other case in point: The only reason I survived the first (and only) Twilight movie I ever saw in theatres was because they killed it on the soundtrack. Since then, I've just looked up the soundtrack every time one of the movies comes out rather than watch the movie itself. I do the same thing with Nicholas Sparks movies. #sorrynotsorry

Anyway, I dig this song and immediately passed it along to several friends after it caught my attention. (The meggles blogged about it here! It's catching on!) It makes me want to go on a rambling roadtrip through the midwest with my windows down, shoes off and hair dancing in the wind.


Tuesday, March 12, 2013

the hidden language of hugging

I first titled this post "the science of hugging," but there are no actual statistics or biological facts in this post. However, it is backed up by a lot of field study, so I still like to think that's like science.

Relevant side note:

There are different kinds of hugs.

I once had a guy inform me that every hug has a specific meaning. Depending on the way a girl hugged him, he could decipher if she was digging him. Basically, this is the hidden language of hugging, according to my friend:

1. The one arm over, one arm under.
Meaning: You're just friends.

2. The side hug.
Meaning: You're DEFINITELY just friends.

2. Girl's arms under, guy's arms over.
Meaning: She's more like a little sister to you.

3. Girl's arms over, guy's arms under.
Meaning: It's go time. In his words, her pretty face is "all up in your grill."

Do I agree?
Not entirely, actually. I would say #1 and #2 might be accurate, but maybe not the other two. The thing is, sometimes guys are tall. And then it's entirely unfeasible (and awkward) to go for method #4 without finding the nearest curb (or bench) (or trampoline) to stand on. (I take it back, I think a trampoline might cause facial bruising and I can't be responsible for your shenanigans.) 

Besides, I feel like every guy I've dated has had a specific preference between method 3 and method 4. I can see this becoming a thing: "Did he hug you?" "Yes." "And?" "Method 3." "Oooohh..."

My true feelings: you've got about 0.00005 nanoseconds to make this decision when it's hugging time. That's a lot of pressure and analyzing to put on something that allowed little-to-no prior planning. I tend to default to #3 and, noooo, that doesn't mean I want to be everyone's little sister. So gosh, let's not read too much into this, right?

I don't know, what do you think?
p.s. let's focus on the hugging meme in this post, because it's relevant and makes me laugh.

Monday, March 11, 2013

a very insta-weekend: skip-its and trapezoids

This is pretty much how it went down.
You kiddos done your taxes yet? Do you hate it ever-so-much? I once took a family finance class in college and there was a tax assignment. I never turned it in. #confession


Also, on Thursday I told a friend that my life is a Bermuda Trapezoid. The following day, this weather pattern appeared directly over my house. So maybe I am a witch?

p.s. the photos of me playing with the Skip It? I had to prove to my nieces and nephews that Aunt Katie's still got it. Note: I still got it.