i've discussed this topic various times in the past week, so i figured it was time to introduce it to blog land.
blog land, meet the ladder theory.
[for the record, it's not a theory i made up...hence the link...i didn't want to take undue credit.]
here's the basic idea:
women have two ladders when it comes to males,
one for friends and one for potential lovers.
a man can move up and down the ladders based on how good of a friend or potential lover he is.
if he's near the top of either ladder, he gets time and attention.
conversely, men have one ladder.
at the top of the ladder is attraction, and at the bottom of the ladder is ...not attraction.
if a lady is near the top of the ladder, she gets more time and attention.
the article draws a few key conclusions:
1. men may receive copious attention and time from a woman, only to discover that they are merely highly ranked on the friend ladder.
2. men do not generally give excessive time/attention to a woman if she is low on the ladder.
therefore, even if she is truly "just a friend" but she is earning time/attention, he is at least remotely attracted to her.
3. it's difficult for men to switch from the friend ladder to the lover ladder in a lady's eyes.
4. if women want to be considered, all they have to do is climb the ladder, i.e. become more attractive, whether physically or personality-wise, etc.
...your thoughts? agree or disagree?