Wednesday, August 22, 2012

on choosing to be vulnerable.

my willingness to be vulnerable is one of my favorite things about myself.
it goes hand in hand with a naturally open heart,
an innate sense of trust, 
and an unfailing inclination to assume the best about people.

other fact:
sometimes those things mean getting kicked in the face.

but hands down,
i'd rather be open and take the risk.
i'd rather assume the best than the worst.
i'd rather get hurt than have a closed heart.
and i really mean that.

basically, if you've seen he's just not that into you,
i am Gigi:

what about you? 
are you a Gigi? or are you more cautious?

i need to print up that Gigi meme and pin it to my wall,


Annie Citrine said...

Please tell me you've heard the TED talk The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown. It's so good. And I loved this post!! I try to be a Gigi. :)

katilda said...

umm i haven't heard that talk but i am going to look it up ASAP!

Unknown said...

so happy to have discovered your blog on the day you posted this! I love that quote. And I have seen the TED talk mentioned above--- I agree, so good! xo

Whitney said...

so funny - we are the same person! i am just like you and i love it about myself :) we'll find love someday!

Kerry said...

I third Brene's TEDtalk! The first time I watched felt like the first day of the rest of my life. Her book (that expands on all of it) lives next to my bed :)

Emily said...

I have a hard time being vulnerable, especially with new people. I'm thinking more in terms of friendships since I'm no longer dating, but I was the same way with dating. And many times, I assume the worst BUT I've been noticing it a lot recently and it's something I'm working on.
I do think there's a balance with vulnerability. One Bible verse that stands out (I've seen it used in dating advice books) is Proverbs 4:23 "Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life." Some translations say "guard your heart." I didn't want to give all of myself and my heart to each guy I was interested in, and I really did have to be careful about that.
It's such a complicated matter, but I think vulnerability and wisdom go hand-in-hand. You must use wisdom to know when to be vulnerable.

katilda said...

I love your thoughts. I am probably a bit too reckless sometimes, and could use more of that "wisdom" balance :) I'm learning! Slowly, maybe, but I'm learning.

katilda said...

And yours will be named Prince Eric!

katilda said...

I am so excited to listen to this talk now! I love those speeches/videos that just change the way you look at life.

Chantel said...

Agreed! I LOVE that Ted Talk.

Chantel said...

Um yes, I am about as vulnerable as they come. I am still trying to discover the balance between loving with my whole heart but knowing when to put my guard up, because I get hurt so easily. I just naturally assume the best in people, even when they are hurting me, so I stay in relationships (plutonic or romantic) long after a normal person would have pulled the chord. I am getting lots better though, but I think I will always be a Gigi :)

Rolled Up Pretty said...

100% with you. being vulnerable is way better. LOVE Gigi too! HA!

Autumn @ Autumn All Along said...

Going to have to agree...the TED talk is so good! I've decided I have to read the book she wrote about Vulnerablity too.