I recently had a chat with a girl who spoke to my soul.
She is an OBGYN, and said when she was in med school a lot of guys were intimidated by her. She said, "They always wanted me to be less than I was." And then she met her husband and said, "He made me feel like i could fly."
Guys and girls alike, we should be everything we have the capability of being. We should cut ourselves loose and sail away and stretch as far as we can. Dream big, aim high, talk big talks and plan big plans and don't be afraid of them.
I know there is something to be said for seeing potential in other people and being patient as people figure themselves out without being unfairly demanding. I get that, I do.
We also have every right to expect that, when we are trying our hardest, we deserve to be with someone else who is also trying as hard as we are. I'm not talking about perfection. Obviously, no one is perfect. But we can and should allow ourselves to aim high, live life to the fullest and be ambitious without worrying if it'll intimidate anyone or narrow the playing field. I feel like no one says that to each other enough.
Dear you, I'm saying it to you.
Why would you want to be with someone who only fits you best when you're playing small? I want someone who finds me when my wings are spread as far as they can be and still fits me perfectly just the same because he's reaching just as far. We ALL deserve that!
My advice: Find what makes YOU happy before you try and pair that with anyone else. (More thoughts on that here.)
Because here's the honest truth: I'd rather be my best self and single than tone myself down to make love happen. And it took me awhile to figure that out but i mean every word.
p.s. read my initial inspiration for this post here.